5 Ways Gratitude Improves Your Likability

Are you the kind of person who draws others? The individual who puts everyone at ease and makes them feel at home? Who is it that everyone enjoys spending time with? Do you know someone that fits this description?

Perhaps it's you. It could be, if it isn't. How can you do that? Being grateful is one method. Developing a grateful attitude leads to a more likable personality, both in your own self-perception and that of others. According to research, appreciative people have more social capital. According to a study led by The John Templeton Foundation, 46% of us think grateful folks have more friends.

Here are some terrific techniques to make yourself more likable.

1. People who are likable are respectful. They use expressions like "please" and "thank you" to communicate their thanks to others. 

Folks who are genuine in their gratitude are admired. When you ask for something, be kind and friendly. A lovely “Thank You” boosts your chances of getting what you need when you need it.

2. Genuine praises are given by likable people. When it comes to well-deserved recognition, they don't hold back. They show their gratitude with genuine praises rather than manipulative, self-serving, or fawning ones. One method that can help you display your appreciation is by writing thank you notes. Everyone appreciates heartfelt compliments.

3. People you like will inquire. They encourage cooperation by approaching a matter with a grateful attitude.

"This is a notice to be at Starbucks at 2 p.m. today for our appointment," said a new acquaintance in a two-sentence follow-up email to a buddy of mine. Despite the sender's good intentions, my friend was put off by the slightly demanding tone. "I look forward to seeing you at Starbucks today at 2 p.m." I'm sure the sender intended.

My acquaintance kept the appointment because this person appeared to be kind and helpful. In a one-on-one scenario, this person turned out to be warm and kind.

Most people aren't aware that their emails come out as obnoxious or abrupt. It requires extra work on my side to talk with kindness, decency, and courtesy when I'm busy, pressured, or on a tight schedule. Slow down, take a deep breath, and avoid using a hurried, impolite, or asking "do it now" tone.

4. People that are likable are willing to serve others. Grateful people understand that their lives would not be the same without the help of others. They want to do to others and give back.

The desire to be kind and considerate is cultivated through developing an attitude of gratitude. Please hold the door open for others. Assist children and families in your town and around the world. Introduce folks to others to help them connect. These are characteristics that we admire.

5. People that are like to accept help from others. How often do you thank folks that assisted you in making a crucial connection? When was the last time you expressed gratitude for someone's helpful advice or guidance?

If you have praised them directly, kudos to you. Address them a handwritten “Thank You” note to take it a step further and communicate your gratitude in a way they won't forget. Furthermore, if you genuinely appreciate them, deliver them the message over lunch or coffee—it's a treat!

Likable people make an effort to tell others what they like about them and why they value certain features or activities. Gratitude increases one's likability and wellbeing.

Therefore, the more time you spend thinking thankful thoughts, doing grateful deeds, and expressing these with others, the more happiness you will draw into your own and others' lives.

The Challenge

Gratitude with a purpose has a cascading effect. Each morning, I challenge you to initiate that ripple. Choose to begin each day with a deliberate act of thankfulness and watch your likability score grow!

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